How to plan a great wedding with low budget

Wedding is an event that marks the official commissioning of a union between man and woman as husband and wife.

Online dictionary defines wedding as “the act or ceremony of marrying; marriage; nuptials.”

It means joining together a man and woman for the purpose of marriage also known as tying of  nuptial knot.

Wedding ceremonies are in different varieties according to cultural and social norms.

In Africa for example almost every community has its own different wedding norms, values and rites.

Wedding day is a day many pray to see yet majority  fail to see it till the end of their lives because not all men or women are privileged to get married in their lifetime for certain obvious reasons. This is a  topic for another day’s discussion.

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I remember while planning my wedding years ago, as I was under pressure to assemble cash for the project, my wife-to-be then was more relaxed than I was because in my country, it is officially the man’s place to marry a woman and provide everything needed for the ceremony.

Although many women offer some assistance, but this is often out of personal volition and not mandatory.

Women seem to wish to see that day more than men from my observations and the general believe in Africa as they refer to the days as the woman’s day.

Usually, gathering the funds needed to execute wedding programme is most times a huge challenge especially for struggling young people of low income status  with less family support.

From the caption of this article, one will tell that managing cost is critical in our discussion of how to make a great wedding.

There are  facts you must realized when planning your wedding to guide you in ensuring you have a wedding that is okay and within your budget.

  1. Wedding is just a short time event.

Wedding ceremony is quite a brief exercise compared to the marriage itself. After the wedding, the marriage starts which is the main thing to look out for.

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Yes, nobody hates having nice comments about his/her wedding events like ”oh it was a great wedding”, “did you see that wedding gown? It was beautiful and expensive”, “how about the cars? they were powerful” the cake, the meal, the decorations and the hall itself and so on.

But dear, all those things end there, then the reality of living together and facing the new family challenges stares quickly few minutes or hours after.

There is no need taking huge loans to carry out wedding event. You do not need to sell valuable property to do your wedding.

Plan your budget realistically and implement it religiously based on the size of your income.

All those people coming to put you under pressure to go borrow will leave the scene immediately the event comes to an end, only you and your spouse will be left to face the debtors who come to recover their borrowed funds.

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If you do not want to end up being miserable during the first few days or months of the matrimony, think wisely before you go borrowing.

  1. Try to limit contracting of activities.

There basically some things you can do by yourself, your spouse can as well or even your siblings can assist with, do not high consultants to handle them in order to save cost.

For instance, if your wife to be knows how to prepare wedding cake, let her draw up a cost conscious budget to handle that bearing in mind that the funds are in shortfall.

Try to cut cost while keeping in view the need for fair standard of whatever you are to achieve.

It is not necessary to go for expensive items when low cost items good enough can serve the same purpose.

  1. Plan your wedding events between December and March . Prizes of items are often lower

these months  by approximately between 10 to 21 percent in most western countries and some parts of Africa.

  • Rent your venue for the event between Thursday night and Friday night. This is because
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    Dos and Don’ts during courtship

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    Having placed much emphasis on the importance of courtship before marriage in our previous articles, it is also important to say not all things can actually be engaged in during courtship.

    Just like there are very crucial things that if not embarked on, will not guarantee a successful courtship exercise.

    We must also remember that the foundation of a balanced marriage begins with a thorough and successful courtship period.

    The rules are simple, do the things that will not leave anything bugging your conscience. Hide nothing and be yourself.

    As easy as this may sound, they appear to be a bit tasking especially given that at this point, intending couples are yet to know much about each other.

    First, intending couples do not need to see the marriage  as a do-o-die affair as this thinking tempt them into doing things that will not be right as far as courting is concerned.

    Things you must avoid during courtship (Don’ts)

    Let me start from things we must not engage in during courtship;

    1. Do not lie during courtship

    Marriage is fundamentally based on trust and if courtship begins in falsehood, then the foundation of  marriage itself is faulty.

    Both parties must understand the fact that it is an opportunity to begin afresh not minding your historical pasts.

    Nobody without a past, the past must not destroy the present or future.

    And one of the major ways the past can be rendered ineffective is by unearthing it to your partner during courtship.

    For instance, if you had a child out of wedlock, please inform your partner.

    Do not be scared of him/her backing out because if he/she does back out,  then it was not meant to be.

    Through this, you can also know if the was love real or false

    A few years back, a lady expressed her worries to me stating her boyfriend of six months relationship suddenly left after discovering she had a child of 2 years outside wedlock.

    And she was like ”Sir are you sure  any man will stand this news and go ahead to marry me?”

    In my response, I let her understood that her rightful man who will sincerely love her and not mind her   predicament of having a child before getting married will come and stay.

    And I advised her to ensure she discusses the issue with whoever seeks her hand in marriage first before accepting the proposal.

    To God be the glory, she did a couple of times and finally the one God created for her saw it as nothing and they got married. Today, they are happy couples  blessed with two other  children.

    Should you have any issue that you think your partner needs to know before hand, please do not hide it from him/her.

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    Inform your  partner about such issue, discuss it and agree on how you can handle such issue in marriage and workout a feasible way of overcoming whatever after effect this predicament may have presented.  Be it health issues or whatever, inform your partner during courtship period.

    1. Do not continue in old ill habits.

    The journey of life is full of ups and downs, during this process we may have at a particular time tried to solve problems our own ways which may have culminated into some unpleasant consequential habits.

    And over time we saw ourselves repeating some of the activities that are not right which along the line became our habits.

    For instance indulging in illicit drugs consumption and addiction, watching pornography movies, drinking alcohol without regulation, smoking, clubbing, gambling etc. are old bad habits that must be stopped as you plan to start creating a home and raise responsible and God-fearing children.

    All these kind of habits are unhealthy hence we must be determined to get rid of them and discuss them with our partners with the aim of helping us to work together to find permanent solutions to address them.

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    Sincerely repent of all unhealthy habits.

    True repentance can only come when we take the decision to turn a new leaf by ourselves without been forced to do so.

    The holy bible says in 2 Chronicles 7:14 “If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”  KJV

    Repent of such habits to be ready to start a fresh new life .

    Marriage is a serious business; you cannot go into it with any of such habits and expect to succeed.

    1. Avoid Sexual Immorality(sexual sin)

    The holy bible says ”Marriage is honourable with bed undefiled” Heb. 13:4.

    Do not allow yourself to from things that will tempt both of you into committing fornication.

    For it is sin that God hates.

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    Avoid discussions that will lead to temptation because the bible says “evil communication corrupts good manners” 1Cor 15:33.

    Do not dress in a way to lure your partner into sin during courtship. Dress modestly and responsibly.

    Stay away from close body contacts so as not to tempt one another into immorality.

    Have patience because one day you will get tired of sexual intercourse as married couple. Take your mind away from thinking about it to avoid been tempted into it.

    The consequences of premarital sex can better be imagined, hence do all you can to avoid it and wait until you are married.

  • Avoid cooking and washing for your courting partner
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    What is the right age for marriage?

    There are a lot of questions in marriage particularly about age.

    Why is this? Why is that?, when will this? When will that? What is this, what is that? And one of the most common question asked by young people is” what is the right age to get married?”

    That is because anything that is a great concept and phenomenon must require a lot of knowledge to pursue hence the need to provide answers to numerous pondering about starting a family via marriage. Read More

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    How Important is Courtship Before Marriage for Intending Couples ? (Part II)

    As discussed in the Part I, the importance of courtship before marriage can never be over emphasized.

    Given the critical relevance of a peaceful and successful home, courtship before marriage cannot be just an option.

    Aside the earlier reasons mentioned, some of the following are as well part of the key importance of courtship before marriage: Read More

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    How Important Is Courtship Before Marriage? Part I.

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    Courtship is a period during which an intending couple study and understand each other to be able to get married and live together as husband and wife.

    Going into marriage without adequate preparation can be likened to building a house without first sitting down to count your cost and planning  properly. Read More

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