Marriage is a platform where everlasting union between couples is formed and maintained.
But there is a very critical question because how you treat marriage depends on the value you place on it. And you cannot place value on anything except you have enough knowledge about the thing.
Of course this is not peculiar to marriage alone but to everything of great value.
For instance, if you give gold to a man who doesn’t know the value; it is as good as saying you have thrown the gold into an ocean.
Most critically, when we look at what happens in several homes today, many of us will be compelled to ask the same questions.
Marriages are failing daily, homes are been shattered, divorce and separation becoming more and more rampant. This will surely be disturbing to any mature normal adult with respect for holy matrimony.
The situation suggests that there is a shortage in the value for marriage growing every day and expanding quickly like harmattan fire.
Origin of Marriage
Marriage can never be understood except we go through the biblical origin of it.
Gen 2:18 “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. KJV
First, we can establish from the above verse of the bible that marriage originated from God himself. God formed Eve for Adam for companionship.
Secondly, God didn’t say it is not good for the man to be alone for some years, or after they couple have had some children neither did God create more than one woman for the man or one woman for many men.
If that be the case, then it implies that marriage is sacred and must be respected by both parties.
It is totally wrong for instance for a man to cohabit with a girl without going through the traditional customary/legal process as well as having the union blessed and ordained in the presence of God.
When a marriage is not based on the foundation of bible principle, then it is faulty. And anything with a faulty foundation will not stand the test of time.
When you read further from Gen2: 21 -25, you will find out that God after taking the rib of Adam to form the woman (Eve), the bible said He gave the woman(Eve) to Adam for companionship whom Adam called” the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh” and said “she shall be called woman because she was formed out of a man”.
The Purpose of Marriage
The purpose of anything determines the energy one puts in achieving it. If the purpose of marriage is important and we know it, then we can do anything to make the marriage work well.
The purposes of marriage as designed by God are very clear and can be seen as follows”
Companionship is the very first reason why God formed marriage between Adam and Eve.
Where we read earlier in Gen 2:18, the bible is very concise when it says “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him anhelp meet for him”. KJV
In order words the man is alone so I will make for him a help meet (companion).
That is the more reason married couples waiting on the Lord for the fruit of the womb do not need to be under any pressure when it hasn’t happened.
Because the main purpose of marriage first, is companionship before any other thing
It is often common even in some bible believing churches that many think the first reason for marriage as formed by God is procreation.
God saw that Adam was still an open bracket and needed a closing bracket to make him complete the reason God created Eve to close the bracket He opened by creating Adam.
For Adam to be complete, he needed Eve to be created by God. It baffles me sometimes when I find some men displaying ignorance by thinking they are complete without a life partner due to the way they discharge their wives at the least disagreement.
But if you look critically into their lives, despite their wealth, powers, fame or even whatever they think has made them complete, you find them not being happy and satisfied because they need their Eve to complete them. Same incident with most women
Gen 2:23 Adam called Eve woman because she was formed from man to balance up the shortage in man.
God cannot make mistakes.
Procreation is one of the cardinal reasons why God mandated marriage.
Gen 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. KJV
The world witnesses increase in human population and other things because of this command from God.
Therefore, concerning marriage, there has to be fruitfulness most especially in child bearing according to God’s command.
It is also important to mention that God do not expect us to make children and not build a peaceful home within which they are to grow up. If our marriages work well, our children will be part of the testimonies.
Aside child bearing, God expects us to be fruitful in all aspects of our lives including spiritual things.
The husband is to love and protect the wife and even be ready to lay down his life for her sake even as Christ did for us and the Church.
If a man fails to love and protect his wife and the entire family, then he neglects one of the core duties assigned to him as the head of the family by God Eph 5:25
On the hand, the wife is to protect the interest of the children and entire home as indicated in Titus 2:4-5
Therefore, it is for all these reasons that God instructed that a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall become one.
This is expressly stated in Eph. 5 :31 which says” For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”
For those who are yet to get married, you still have a golden opportunity to start on a solid foundation.
It is not about how beautiful, handsome, intelligent, wealthy or even famous a person is.
It is rather about understanding what marriage means and what needs to be invested in it to make it work while depending and relying solely on the almighty God for every guidance and direction.
Furthermore, concerning those who are already married but didn’t lay the right foundation, it is important to know that the bible says “For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease.” John 14v7(KJV)
It is never late to start reviewing and correcting your steps by going back to the foundation and be sure you are legally married, and then study the scripture for guidance.
Blissful marriage is very possible if we are ready to learn and to obey God’s instructions. We only need to ensure we build our homes in line with the tenets of the scripture and all will fall in place automatically because only the grace of God keeps a marriage and home.