There are a lot of questions in marriage particularly about age.
Why is this? Why is that?, when will this? When will that? What is this, what is that? And one of the most common question asked by young people is” what is the right age to get married?”
That is because anything that is a great concept and phenomenon must require a lot of knowledge to pursue hence the need to provide answers to numerous pondering about starting a family via marriage.
Today, we are looking at the right age to get married and begin to build a God-fearing home and raise God-fearing family members.
First, it is important to note that marriage is not for children.
In the holy bible, Genesis 2:18 the bible states that God said “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. KJV
God didn’t say it is not good for a boy to stay alone rather He said it is not good for a man to stay alone. By English definition, the age of maturity starts from 18 years of age.
Meaning for anyone to begin a marriage union, the person must first of all be mature in terms of age.
Not just in physical body build. It is not enough for a boy to grow huge, broad shoulder, beards, deep voice and he begins to think he is mature and wants to get married. It is way beyond just that.
Also, when I talk about maturity I am not talking about a 40-year old man who can still reason and behave as if he is under 20 or a 30-year old woman who still thinks and acts as if she is under 18.
Maturity has to be both in numbers of years, body maturity, psychological, emotional and to some extent economically as well as spiritually.
And one key attributes of a mature person is his/her ability to exercise self-control.
The truth is that, maturity makes someone ready to handle emotional and psychological issues or challenges in a home.
For instance, if a man doesn’t know how to worship God, lead his partner and household to do same, there will be crisis in the home as Christian.
A woman that conducts the affairs of the home without recognizing God is a time bomb waiting to explode.
A home where God reigns is always a peaceful home.
The bible says “Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you.” Psalm 37:5–NLT.
Talking about maturity, it important I mention that age maturity does not guarantee marriage success as it goes beyond that.
It is most times believed that men become more mature and referred to as men from age 24.
Most often, people want to compare their ages with those of their spouses.
I ones heard a young girl in courtship saying “ I love him so much, the only problem I have concerning him is the huge age difference between us.”
And when I asked the age margin between them, she said 15 years.
The problem is not in the age but in the maturity.
You could see a young man of 25 years reasoning like a 50-year old while a 50-old thinking and behaving like a 20-year old.
Furthermore, there is a saying that love makes you young. Where there is genuine love and passion, a 60-year old person begins to look like he/she is just 40.
Therefore having looked at all these facts about maturity with regards to settling down in marriage, we can now say for one to be considered to be mature enough to begin to think about marriage, the person has to possess most of the following attributes:
- Age Maturity
- Emotional Maturity
- Psychological Maturity
- Spiritual Maturity
- Economic Maturity(have a stable means of income)
Hence, when a man or women has grown to possess the above attributes and feel he/she is ready to get married, then the person can be considered to be matured for marriage.
As earlier stated, this does not guarantee a successful marriage, it only means the person is now old enough to begin to learn more on how to get married and run a home successfully.