
Marriage refers to the coming together of two opposite sex adults to live together as husband and wife after fulfilling all the required rites.
For there to be a legal marriage fundamentally, the bride price must be paid to the family of the lady. This, traditions, law and bible stipulate and recommend it.
Therefore, this implies that when a man puts a woman in his house without accomplishing the necessary cultural and legal requirements regarding the marriage, then both of them cannot be said to be genuinely married yet.
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So listen to me, as a man, you are not married until you carry out those rites which include payment of bride price and every other thing that the family of the woman may need you to do which is within the law and maybe your religious belief.
Why are we taking time to lay emphasis on how to build successful home via a good marriage? It’s that important because war and peace begin at home. A peaceful and lovely home spreads the values to the community, from there to the county to the states and to the nation then all over the world.
This is just by the way, as I will write full article soon on what makes your marriage legitimate or not.
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Back to the main topic which talks about marriage bringing some freedom and taking some away, it is crucial to say that FREEDOM is a state of being free.
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Before marriage as a young man I was so excited that one day I will be free from certain things by the time I got married.
For example, I go to work and return come back home, living alone in my a mini-flat apartment, most times I return with a lot of work related issues I wished I could share with someone close, but when I look around me, there is no one to share them with.
Remember the bible says in Gen. 2 verse 18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him“.
So I pray for a wife and hope that by the time I get married, I will surely be having someone I can share my worries with from time to time.
Very correct after, I got married I started having someone I discussed my challenges, dreams, visions, plans and even emotions with. I got that freedom I was questing for at that level.
Also, as a young career bachelor, you leave the house early in the morning and return in the evening as tired as you are, you then enter the kitchen to prepare dinner for yourself.
This is always tiresome to do all the time. And taking dinner in eateries or public spots regularly is not wise economically and in terms of comfort as well as satisfaction.
Hence, I prayed to get married so I can have someone who can assist me to prepare meals for me while I am out, and help to keep the home as well. This part of the freedom as well, I got after getting married.
I prayed to get married soon so I could have someone support me financially as the bible says in the book of Genesis, “I will make for thee a help meet’, someone that will help and support me.
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So that if before getting married, I raised funds for my house rent , family bills, property project all alone, at least my wife can raise me some support no matter how small, it will go a long way to serve in one way or the other.
Indeed, after we got married, I started having such support after some time when she got a small business to do while waiting for a job.
I can also not forget that, the bible says two will warm up each other during a cold night. I prayed to have such opportunity when I got married. Of course, I started enjoying that after my marriage.
I can go on and on, but the bottom line is that I got those freedoms I itched for before marriage.
Most importantly, as marriage gives you freedom in some areas, it takes away freedom in another areas of your life.
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